A Reflection on Joy and Sorrow
Joy. A word synonymous with Christmas, yet a word that in many ways feels more out of place this year than ever before. Joy in the midst of a world that seems like it’s on fire everywhere. A world that no longer feels robust and immortal. A world that becomes more divided and antagonistic every day. A world that seems to recognize its need for Him less and less.
In this season, we are called upon to engage Joy.
We engage Joy from a seat where we celebrate what once happened, when God responded to the destitution of the world He loved. We celebrate the divine invitation that was extended to all mankind. But perhaps after so many generations, this time in history feels distant and out of reach now. A time and place foreign to us. And in this disconnect can be a kind of lament. A kind of sorrow. For this was not our own story to experience for ourselves. We did not bask in a state of rapture as we looked on the Christ Child with our own eyes, or proclaim from our own lips the glorious news that He had at long last come. Nor are we of those who currently have come into the fruition of all that was promised in those days. No, we are of those who have heard the Good News, who have been grafted into the Family of God and who are still waiting. Those who are still watching. Looking back from the outskirts of this time in history long past.
In this season, we engage Joy from a seat of perpetual anticipation of what is promised to us, when He returns and releases us from the desperation of the world He loves. But perhaps this too feels distant and out of reach. A time and place intentionally left unknown to us. And in this distance, is perhaps its own kind of lament, its own sorrow.
For we are still waiting, still watching. Looking forward from the center at a time in history yet to take place.
So, how do we engage Joy in the shadow of what once was while looking towards the light of what will one day be but is not yet?
How do we engage Joy in the sorrow that can be present in the in-between? In this mortal and divine tension that for us of this day and age, is the only reality we have ever known?
How do we engage Joy in a world that is rapidly steering itself towards utter ruin? How do we engage Joy here and now when what was promised in this world was not the eradication of sorrow but the eventual overcoming of it?
We see Joy for what it is in contrast to the sorrow.
If we look at sorrow not as something that maintains the absence of Joy but as something that in its very design makes room for Joy, then ironically, it is possible that we can find Joy everywhere. If sorrow is always with us, then from this perspective, we discover that space is continually being made for Joy.
Close your eyes and think back to a great moment of Joy… What set that moment apart from all the others? Why was Joy the defining factor here? Something was present a moment before that created space for this Joy, created a vacancy. What was it?
When we peruse the pages of Scripture and come across moments of great Joy for the giants of the Faith, there is always something present leading up to these moments. A certain context that is waiting for Joy to enter in. Let’s take Abraham and Sarah in their moment of being given Isaac. Or Hannah’s moment of being given Samuel; Zacharias and Elizabeth being given John; the Israelites being given Jesus. The one thing that preceded each of these miracles, the thing that made room for these crystalized moments of Joy, was a deep longing. This longing and the petitions that ascended to Heaven as a result, made a vacancy. If there had been no longing, no petition, no need, then these miracles, would not have held the significance that they each did. They would not have spoken so clearly of the deeper Story that was unfolding. They would not have represented the heart of Heaven so irrefutably.
In our longing, in our petitions, sorrow does not in truth, serve to keep Joy at bay but creates a Joy-shaped space in our hearts.
Though perhaps a controversial source, Kahlil Gibran wrote this on the interconnectedness of joy and sorrow:
The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.
Is not the cup that holds your wine the very cup that was burned in the potter’s oven?
And is not the lute that soothes your spirit, the very wood that was hollowed with knives?
When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy.
If sorrow is always making room for Joy, then it stands to reason, that often we discover our strength not in the moments absent of sorrow, but in the middle of it.
And as we engage Joy in the midst, we remind ourselves if not others, that sorrow is only a temporary place holder for something much longer lasting.
We find strength here not because we in and of ourselves are strong or because we have taken on a “better” perspective that gives us strength. We find strength in the midst because that is where we find Him. We find that He alone is the Answer to the longing. He was then as the long-awaited Messiah and He remains the Answer as Emmanuel, God with us. The work on the cross and in the grave cannot be undone and as a result, Joy maintains its presence within all earthly sorrows.
But where does that leave us in the tension of today? In choosing to engage not necessarily the sorrow, but the Joy that the sorrow has created a vacancy for, we fight the Good Fight from a higher plain. The thing about Joy is that it always whispers of something deeper that either has already occurred, is currently taking place or is yet to come. It is the evidence that there is more at work than what the current state of things would suggest.
So, what is our Joy in this moment? We know all too well what sorrows we carry with us. We know what sorrows perpetuate themselves just outside our walls. But have we made room in our minds and our hearts for the joys that these sorrows have made a vacancy for?
In this season of Christmas, we actively engage with the divine reality that the Messiah did in fact, come while we simultaneously grapple with the fact that we are still waiting, still watching for His return. So, what then bridges the gap between the divine Joy of what once was and the longing for what is yet to be?
It isn’t a what but rather a Who, and in His presence we find fullness of Joy.
Pahtyana Moore reading for us.
By Nichole Nordeman
The ancient Word
The aged scrolls
The branch of David in the wind
How many lifetimes must unfold
Before the Promised One steps in
How many deserts, how many kings
How many more burnt offerings
Emmanuel, we breathe Your name
We watch, we wait
We watch
We wait
We ask
We ache
God with us
Someday
We watch
We wait
Dead of Night
A swollen womb
Heaven held inside my hands
How could there be
No other room
But for a bed of straw and sand
And lo the blood
And oh the cries
And still my soul doth magnify
Emmanuel, I breathe Your name
We watch we wait
We watch
We wait
We ask
We ache
God with us
This day
We watch
We wait
Interlude
A longing heart
A world on fire
We want to see Your face again
No man can know
The day the hour
The many miles from Bethlehem
But every knee will bow and then
And every tongue confess again
Emmanuel, we breathe Your name
We watch we wait
We watch
We wait
We ask
We ache
God with us
One day
We watch
We wait
We watch
We wait
We ask
We ache
God with us
This day
We watch
We wait
by Andrew Peterson
And when the winter is over
The flowers climb through the snow
The willows weep and the clover bloom
Then all at once you hear a song
That’s stronger than the noise
Rejoice
Rejoice
And when the peace turns to danger
The nights are longer than days
And every friend has a stranger’s face
Then deep within the dungeon cell
You have to make a choice
Rejoice
Rejoice
Rejoice
And again I say
And again I say
And again I say
And again I say
Rejoice
Be still and know that the Father
Will hasten down from His throne
He will rejoice over you with song
So set your face against the night
And raise your broken voice
Repeat Chorus
The featured image is titled “Christmas Angels 60 Years On” is (c) Lancia E. Smith and used with her glad permission for Cultivating, and for this particular piece by Pahtyana Moore. These tiny angels have been part of Lancia’s Christmas since her childhood and have been a part of Pahtyana’s throughout her childhood as well. They represent sorrow of parting by death and distance, and long-hoped for joy when those lost are reunited.
Pahtyana Moore is a wife, mama to 2 ninja princesses, a writer, dancer and international speaker whose passion is in spiritual formation, cross-cultural ministry, the creative arts and leadership development. She and her family called Kenya home for over 5 years, where they equipped and launched rural pastors and ministry leaders in discipleship. They are now neck-deep in the messy and exciting business of reestablishing home in northern Thailand. To follow their adventures, you can find them here. To read more of her writing click here.
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